Comments on: Happy Birthday, sweetie.

By: Louise Barbara

Louise Barbara — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 03:00:43 +0000

What a lovely story. Tomorrow is my son’s 18th birthday — his first birthday without my husband, and such a BIG birthday. I wish his Dad were here to celebrate his “manhood.” My son is making a a list of everything he hated about his adolescence and then we are going to burn it. I wonder if his Dad’s death will be on the list. Keep writing Sandi!

By: Paula

Paula — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 11:52:47 +0000

I had purchased a book called “Motherless Daughters” (my mother passed away when I was 14) and I was reading one of the chapters and it talked about a woman suddenly becoming aware that it was a special date that related to her mother (can’t remember what it was). Something sparked inside of me and I looked at the receipt which I had been using as a bookmark. I had purchased the book on my mother’s birthday and didn’t even realize it. I guess we may not remember things on a ‘calendar’ level, but on a spiritual level, we never forget.

By: Chris

Chris — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 18:00:09 +0000

Sandi, it’s good to see some fresh work from you. I love your blog and always look forward to reading anything you post. Lisa’s birthday was March 5th and, now, knowing Drew’s is the following day you will be in my thoughts at that time.

By: Suzanne

Suzanne — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 03:18:06 +0000

My husband’s birthday was/is 12/24. Last year was the first year I forgot. 8 years after he died. I didn’t feel too guilty. God knows he knows I’ve felt plenty bad enough. I remembered Christmas Day and silently wished him happy birthday.

I went through some years where I was afraid I would forget. I know now that I never can.

By: Amie Boudreau

Amie Boudreau — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 19:38:33 +0000

What a beautiful post. I lost my father 2 1/2 years ago and have been trying to help my mother pick up the pieces since… I hope to share your blog with her, and hope that it gives her a new perspective on how to cope.

We still celebrate Daddy’s days… So glad I found your blog.

By: Deborah Redden

Deborah Redden — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 17:06:27 +0000

I know what this is like. John’s birthday is in September usually over the Labor Day weekend if the calendar is working correctly. We celebrate with chocolate lava cakes from Trader Joe’s, vanilla ice cream, and whipped cream.
I don’t fall apart…just feel deeply saddened. Last year I did forget….and didn’t do anything. I’m not sure if that made me feel better or worse, but I was surprised that I completely forgot.